Lets Talk About It - From NYC w/Dana J.
People often wonder what the meaning of a true friend is these days. I see friendships come and go like nothing. I have a different definition I guess. I think you come into contact with people who are brought into your life for a reason, and it is a blessing. I believe in building LIFE LONG friendships and relationships not "convenience friends" or temporary friends" or "friends who want something". Most people probably can count on one or two hands the "true" friends they have that they know will be there through thick and thin, when you are up and when you fall, when you laugh and when you cry, when you rise to the top of the mountain or when you fall from it. A "true friend" is someone who is standing there even when you can't see them, someone who loves you for you and nothing else, someone who loves your heart and your soul...not what you are, who you are, or what you look like. It is not a date! I don't pick my friends based on their looks, their weight, their body, their education, or their money, but it is about chemistry. It is about the inside of a person. What makes them beautiful inside will shine outside as well. You can be the most beautiful person on earth, but if you are ugly on the inside than trust me you will be ugly on the outside as well.
You do not have to have everything in common or anything in common. It is about bonds and connections. It is about those people you just feel you need in your life and should be in your life. I have friends I did not talk to you for YEARS and when we reconnected it was like we never stopped loving and caring about each other. We were right back to where we were. Now, I recommend never losing touch or contact with "true friends" even if they move or live far away, because they will be there for you in a heartbeat if they have to swim an ocean. It is sad when people lose touch for silly reasons like they don't make planes, trains, and automobiles lol. It makes the visits that much more sweeter and memorable.
You don't want a friend who the second you turn your back they stab you in it. You want one who will talk sh*t to your face and stab you in the front haha. I bet that sounds ridiculous right? PFFFFT! At least they are not going behind your back. Honesty, fights, and making mistakes are all part of a healthy friendship, but so is FORGIVENESS! If you can't be honest, than you have nothing. If what they did makes you mad, than get over it. Friends get mad at each other. When you find your way back after cooling off is when you know it is a "true friendship". I don't want someone who is only there when they have a problem or need to talk, I want someone who is there for me even if I want to talk about the clouds in the sky. You are never too busy to stay in touch or hang out. Make the time! Before you know it the time goes by in the blink of an eye.
Real friends never walk away when things get tough. They will tell you what you need to hear whether you want to or not. They will wrap a blanket around you when you are cold. They will bring you soup when you are sick. They will love you unconditionally with all your faults. They will hug you and not let go until you are ready. They will NEVER judge you. They will stand by you at your proudest moments and your weakest moments. They will never leave you in the rain. They will try to take away your pain. They will give you the truth. They will regularly tell you they love you. They will appreciate you in their life and let you know it.
It's funny over the past couple years I have made some of the greatest friends online. Some I have met and some that I will soon meet or plan too. I have seen that it is not about where you live or what you do. We are all just trying to get by. Friends come and go, but the good ones always stay. There is always a reason people come into our lives. NEVER ignore that. You heart will tell you if the person is meant to be your forever "true friend". It is like telling the difference between a good apple and a bad one.
Cherish the ones that love you, that make a difference, that are there, that you can lean on, that you can talk to, that you can call anytime day or night and talk about ANYTHING, and that truly know the meaning of a "true friendship. Those are the ones you want to grab with both hands and hold on tight and never let go.
Many blessings, SMILE :D