BAM! One day you realize that you are getting older and there are many things you wish you would have said or accomplished. The fact is, it is never too late to achieve goals. There is no age limit on our desires, because we come into them and out them as we age. We grow and contemplate on what our next move will be. Some of us want notoriety, fame, recognition, family, good friends, and success. Some just go with the natural flow and search for the signs. Who would not want all these things. The difference between each individual, as unique as we are, is that most just want to be happy. Happiness is the real goal here in life. TRUE HAPPINESS!
This is attainable if we try remember that life also comes with hurt, despair, disappointment, sadness, anger, trials and tribulations, sickness, pain, mistakes, regrets, heartache, struggle, failure, negativity, weakness, and death. There is no escaping these. This is how and why we survive. If life did not consist of both good and bad, than where would we be? Really ask yourself this question. What is it all about? Another thing I learned is that forgiveness and love is the key! We must learn to do both with our entire heart. Love your family, friends, and tell them as much as you can. Show gratitude in each day that passes. We must be thankful!
If it was not for a good friend of mine who I have confided a great deal in over the past year, I would still be bouncing back and forth between my two worlds. The truth? Everyday is a challenge that we must face. There is no escaping the inevitable, but we can learn how to manage. I am not saying any of this will be easy, but it can be done with grace. If we continue to repeat the same things over and over, you will only be standing still. Nobody wants to face the same obstacles over and over and over again.
I have learned a fresh start does not mean your past will not follow you. You must deal with it and move on. There is no such thing as running away from your problems despite what we might think. In all of this we will also find strength, power, and a reason to fight. People will care for you, love you, be there for you through anything, catch you when you fall, listen to you, have compassion, be understanding and loyal, and will always be in your life, than you have those will be the complete opposite of all those things. Those are not the people you want to attract or interact with. You have to remember to cherish what you do have. It is something truly special. There is always someone worse off than the next.
We must appreciate no matter how big or small. Too often we are looking for what is not there, and we forget what is right in front of us. Don't push people away. We might find it easier thinking we are doing them a favor by keeping them at arms length, lashing out, unintentionally hurting them, or pretending we do not care; however, who says you get to make the decision? If they have been there with you through tough times, you can pretty much bet they are not leaving you now. Learn to trust and not question.
I realized I can't read minds and neither can the people in my life, so reach out when you are in need. Don't assume they are too busy or you don't want to be a bother. That is what they are there for. Just keep in mind they have there life to deal with as well. Understand they have to take care of themselves as well. There will be times they can't be there the way they want to be. Give them their time and space or help each other. Be gentle with yourselves and others. Don't assume that life is easier for someone else. You never know what people are going through or have been through.
Be kind and smile even when you are faking it. Laugh as much as you can because it will make all the difference for your soul. Have faith in everything you do and in people. Believe and trust it! If there is something you want, than go after it fiercely. There is NO SHAME in falling or even failing. We all do, and we just have to learn when it is time to dust ourselves off and move on.
The past? Leave it there. Trust me on this one. The last thing you want to do is drag that with you everywhere. It can be a heavy burden. Life can be beautiful if we choose to see the good through all the bad. Everything that happened, it happened for a reason and now it is time to focus on the future. No sense living in the darkness! When you face a barrier, you must conquer it before you can REALLY move forward. We all think, including myself, we got through something when in reality we just survived it. Believe it or not there is a difference.
Take care of you, and than be of service. First and foremost, you are priority. We all need to break through our own walls so we can be of clear mind to help another. Just remember, if you want to make a change you can. You have to WANT it bad enough, because nobody can do it for you. Be honest with those around you, but most importantly yourself. Sometimes a friend might sound harsh or even like they are yelling at you, but know that it is because they care. If they didn't, do you really think they would waste their energy. Telling someone what they want to hear will never be real. It is all bullsh*t and will not get you closer to the ultimate truth. We all need that kick in the ass sometimes to get us moving in the right direction. We will have to do it, and it will be done to us.
If you want to go back to school, than do it!
If you want to change careers, than do it!
If you want to move, than do it!
If you want to climb mountains, than do it!
Whatever it is, JUST DO IT! Life is too short to not count your blessings. Don't waste it being angry, resentful, or having a mind full of negative thoughts. Everybody else is walking around just fine while you are sitting there feeling sorry for yourself. Life is what you make it. If you CHOOSE to do nothing, than guess who is to blame for that? Don't be afraid to take those steps. Every step forward is a step closer.
Success is not measured by how much money you make, who you know, who you are, how many friends you have, or what you do for a living. Success is all the little things that add up to a life that is filled with love, happiness, and joy! All those material things won't matter in the long run. Do they put food on your table, do they tell you how much they love you, do they hug you, do they show you affection, do they provide you with a sense of family, do they put a roof over your head and clothes on your back? I know they don't pay the bills! :)
My point is to stop making excuses and go around blaming the world and the people in it for your problems or why you are stuck! Realize as an adult we now have CHOICES no matter how traumatic our past or the world has been! There is always a reason for everything! I can say this, because I will admit I have done it myself.
Not all this I came to find out alone. It was through the help of good friends, support, and some great advice. I have learned that these are the type of people I want to surround myself with and keep around for a lifetime. No matter how far or how close, you are always connected.
You can't change what already happened. You can only change what is to come.
- Give and help others...be of service anyway you can
- Get involved with charities and organizations
- Be Optimistic about life
- Look for the beauty in everything
- Give yourself a break
- Make mistakes...it is okay once in awhile
- LOVE
- Be extraordinary
- Pick up the phone once in awhile...don't just text (I know it is hard, but you will live :)
- Make connections
- Don't live backwards
- Take responsibility
- Man up so to speak :)
- Be active and stay healthy
- Don't judge
- Stay humble
- Pray
- Enjoy nature
- Don't argue...communicate
- Laugh ALL the time
- Shake your booty whenever you can
- Live like there is no tomorrow
- Face any problem head on
- Make time for yourself
- Don't stress over little things you have no control over
- Not everything will turn out the way you want it to
- Accept somebody the way they are or move on
- Take deep breathes and release everything
- Do for others...don't be selfish at the wrong times
We are never given what we can't handle. Life is waiting...go after it!
Many blessings
xo
D :)
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